Navigating Nanhood

Balancing Love, Work, and Boundaries

It seems like a lifetime ago when nans had quiet lives and stay-at-home routines - probably because it was! But Nanhood today? Well, it's where nurture meets burnout

These days we are more likely to be building businesses, or balancing multiple roles — and doing it all while still trying to show up for our families. We may be young in spirit and full of love, but the energy required to hold it all can take its toll.

The Shift in Nanhood:

The societal structure has shifted. The pension age has risen, and many of us are still in active careers well into our 60s. For self-employed women, the load is even heavier — we’re not only doing the work, we’re managing every aspect of it behind the scenes too.

And yet, when we’re asked to step in for our grandchildren — we say yes. Every time. Out of love, yes. But also... out of a little guilt, if we're being honest.

Why It’s So Exhausting (Even When We’re Healthy):

We eat well. We practice yoga. We care for our minds and our souls. But that doesn’t make us superhuman. Emotional labour, interrupted routines, and the pressure to keep everything spinning eventually wear down even the most radiant spirit.

And here’s what often gets overlooked:
We are doing this without a village.

So What’s the Answer?

It begins with three words: permission, boundaries, and support.

• Permission to say, “Not this time.” Without guilt.

• Boundaries that honour your energy and your own needs.

• Support — whether that’s asking for help or simply acknowledging what you do is enough.

One Simple Ritual to Rebalance:

If you're anything like me, after a day of running around after a 2-year-old, collapsing on the sofa is the most appealing idea! But, I try not to give into that. Instead, I will fold myself into a restorative yoga pose and combine it with a little pranayama (breathwork). Then, I'll make a nutritious drink to top up my energy. And, if I'm totally zombiefied, I'll set a 15-minute timer on my phone and take a nan nap!

One of the greatest restorative yoga poses is a simple one - Lay on the floor, wiggle yourself forward so that your bum is against the wall and let your legs rest on it. You can put a pillow under your head if you feel you need one. Rest your hands at your sides, palm faced up. Then try breathing in a regular pattern - inhale to a count of 6, hold for a count of 3, exhale for a count of 6 and repeat. This will reduce stress, calm your nervous system and promote physical relaxation.

Closing Thoughts:

Being a nan is an absolute blessing. It is also a powerful, dynamic role - one that is super important because we are carrying wisdom, resilience, and ancestral love — but don't get that confused with carrying everything - that is not our role.

We're in this together girls and, more than ever, the world needs all that we carry, so protect your light, sage and keep shining ... just remember to take the time to recharge X